WHAT DOES LIFE AFTER THE DIVORCE LOOK LIKE FOR WOMEN?
While the initial divorce process is difficult, it’s generally pretty clear and straightforward. Lots of meetings with lawyers, court dates, paperwork, maybe some yelling, usually some tears.
But what happens after? Once you’ve gone through the initial process, experienced the vicious emotions, and are left with the uncomfortable realization that your confidence has taken a major hit and you simply don’t know who you are or how to move forward from here.
What does life after the divorce look like for you?
Moving on with life after the divorce
You’re done crying and fighting with lawyers. You’ve moved yourself or fully moved your ex out of your house. The dust has settled, you’ve survived the divorce…. and now you’re ready to move on!
But what does that mean? How do you just move on when you feel like your identity has been stripped away from you? And what do you even want life to look like moving forward?
You’re used to having control. Going through a divorce can rob you of feeling like you have control over anything. This experience can leave you feeling powerless and like a failure––two feelings that are probably new and highly uncomfortable for you.
You’re ready to move, but where do you go from here?
Therapy isn’t enough
Many women find themselves in a therapist’s office at some point during a divorce. Therapy is a fantastic tool, and it can be a really helpful way to acknowledge the trauma you’re experiencing and work on the mental aspects of your healing.
But therapy isn’t enough.
While talking to a licensed professional can help with your mind, you need to dig deeper to help your body and sensual self.
As a sex + relationship coach, the work I do helps high-achieving women:
Reclaim their sexuality (sometimes after 20 years of numbness)
How to become your own best lover
Feel confident enough to date again
Repair relationships with themselves they thought were gone forever
Without doing the work beyond therapy, women often find themselves stuck in cycles of self-doubt, grief, or an inability to move forward––even after they are “over” the shock and trauma of the divorce itself.
Right now, you may be feeling desperate to move on. You know there’s a new, vibrant life out there… but you just don’t know how to access it.
Discovering pleasure in life after the divorce
Divorce doesn’t have to be an end. In fact, for the women I work with, their divorce is something they look back on with gratitude because it was the key to unlocking a whole new level of joy, pleasure, confidence, and possibility.
For many women, pleasure isn’t seen as an essential part of life. Often it’s relegated to the bedroom, where women’s pleasure is often positioned as shameful, unattainable, unimportant, and too much work.
Forget everything you think you know about pleasure and lean into this truth:
Pleasure is the foundation of your best life.
You’re probably used to operating within masculine systems of power. You didn’t earn your success by playing small or being quiet. (And we love that!)
But along the way, you’ve lost your connection to the feminine and sacrificed your ability to receive.
Right now, after your divorce, is the ideal time to soften into your body, reclaim your feminine, and embody a confidence that shows up in all areas of your life.
You don’t have to give up your power to access pleasure. You will actually amplify your power by learning to receive pleasure and accessing the vitality, creativity, and resilience it offers.
The most powerful women are strong, decisive, confident, and fully capable of receiving an overflow of pleasure in all areas of their lives. This is who you are ready to become.
The power of pleasure
You want to move on. You want to feel like you again. And you sure as hell want to enjoy the best of what your life still has to offer.
But despite everything you want, you may be stuck with questions like:
Will I ever feel sexy again?
Am I still desirable?
Can I trust myself to choose better next time?
Do I even want to date again?
What does pleasure look like at this stage of life?
What does intimacy look like now?
Who am I without him?
Who do I want to become?
You can’t reason yourself into feeling sexy, desirable, and confident.
You can’t just cross your fingers and hope things work out better when you’re doing the same things you did before.
You can’t rely on the apps to send you Mr. Right to rescue you from this situation.
So what can you do?
You can learn how to receive pleasure. How to BE pleasure.
When every aspect of your life is attuned to pleasure, you will have confidence, vitality, better health, better boundaries, and richer relationships.
The more pleasure-filled your life, the more joy and success you can expect.
Let’s be clear. Pleasure isn’t relegated to physical touch from another in the bedroom. Pleasure is about going deeper into the feminine than you ever have, where you can access greater vitality, creativity, and resilience.
And yes, it’s also about opening yourself up to receiving physical pleasure that feels unlike anything you’ve ever experienced.
Creating your desired life after the divorce
It’s not a coincidence that you see your experiences, fears, questions, and desires so clearly spelled out in this post.
I know how it feels to be where you are because I’ve been through the grief and pain of a divorce, too.
I found myself questioning my own identity and feeling like all the power and confidence that made me had been stripped away without my permission.
Once I found my own path away from “I have to be the one who holds it all together,” to the joy of “I get to relax into myself and let pleasure keep expanding,” I never looked back.
Because I’m a firestarter and permission giver, I channeled my own experiences into life-changing work. I'm proud to lead women down their own path to pleasure and confidence as a sex + intimacy coach.
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